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I just don't get it

June 18th, 2007 at 08:16 pm

I should not write too much detail here because this is about my in-laws.

Let's just say, I don't have much sympathy to people who ask for money help because they didn't prepare themselves.

I feel bitter about these people because I had to struggle myself because I lost my father when I was young. I worked hard, saved hard, and never asked other people to help me for money. I always kept my emergency fund, so I don't have to bother other people. If I can't do something due to lack of money, I simply won't do it.

So, it really bothers me when people call us and ask for $$. I'm talking about the person in her 40s, not a teenager. And, she has a husband, not a single mom. My husband felt really sorry for her, so he sent her some money but I just don't understand it. By the way, the last time my husband saw her was 15 years ago.

I'm not talking about her in particular, but people who expect other people to help them in general. I know there are some catastrophic event. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the situations they could prepare for it, but they didn't. I just don't get it.


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4 Responses to “I just don't get it”

  1. Nic Says:
    June 18th, 2007 at 11:37 pm 1182209832
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    Some (maybe most) people just don't have a "Plan B."
    For years,my family thought I was "rich" because I had a great job and didn't spend on anything frivolous. But,they didn't see me putting in long hours and taking on a p/t job to $tash money for "that rainy day." But it paid off. I'm "semi-retired",work p/t,draw a modest pension and rent out one of my houses.

  2. baselle Says:
    June 19th, 2007 at 03:52 am 1182225122
    1182225122

    Your third paragraph - except for your father dying early, mine died 2 years ago - rings so true with me, too.

    Unfortunately, the person you've described is very much like a panhandler... they ask instead of preparing ahead because whenever they've asked, they've gotten, so why prepare? Only a need to prepare the sob story and the blink blink lashes.

  3. mbkonef Says:
    June 19th, 2007 at 04:02 am 1182225766
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    I know exactly the type of people you are talking about. My DH had a brother who was always telling us how lucky we were to be "rich". In the meantime, we both worked hard, saved and did without a lot of "necessities" like cell phones, premium cable, eating out etc. At the same time, his brother ate out all the time, had all the cable channels, DSL internet before it was widely available, the latest and greatest digital cameras, cell phones, etc. but was always broke and looking for "help". Needless to say, we refused.

  4. katwoman Says:
    June 19th, 2007 at 06:33 pm 1182278014
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    Yup, I know 1 or 2 of these myself.

    The only way to handle them is to leave them to the dogs.

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